Mind your own ____.

Okay so I was going to post discussing a different topic at first but when I saw this article I couldn’t pass it up. Have you ever seen something so ridiculous you’re at a loss for words? Well brace yourself, folks. A restaurant in Oklahoma City, which is said to be quite popular (not sure how when it makes customers feel this unwelcomed) has issued a warning to it’s transgender customers. Unlike the Steak and Catfish Barn in Oklahoma City, I’m genuinely warning you: Watch your back when dining at this restaurant. The restaurant owner, Bob Warner allowed a sign to be displayed in his business’ window which threatened transgender customers (see below):

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Hmm..even though Warner claims he’s just looking out for his business and the well being of others, it sounds a bit like… a threat. (Hey, I just call ‘em as I see ‘em.) Warner said according to The Blaze, “We have a lot of redneck guys that come in here…If their wife or their little girl walked in that bathroom and a man followed them in there, I wouldn’t have a restaurant.” Wow… let’s give it up for this guy! What a hero! So selfless!

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Is this guy serious? That’s his best excuse? Hey buddy, if you’re so concerned why not make a gender neutral bathroom?! Or as some may like to call it a FAMILY BATHROOM. *oohhs and aahhs erupt from the crowd*

Warner argues that we should keep children and women safe by not allowing transgender customers to use the bathroom of the gender they IDENTIFY with. He adds that they can use the bathroom if they “dress appropriately”. And no he doesn’t elaborate. Umm excuse me…what does that even mean?! Are sweatpants allowed or is that too casual?

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It’s people like Warner who claim to not be transphobic or homophobic that are stopping us from progressing. They’re stereotypical and prejudice and pretend they’re doing it all for the common good. He’s essentially making an accusation that transgender individuals are predators. There have been studies that show transgender individuals are more likely to encounter problems when using a public restroom. A report at UCLA said close to 70% of transgender people experienced verbal harassment and near 10% experienced physical assault when using public restroom (Time.com). When was the last time you were attacked in a bathroom, Warner? Why force someone who identifies as a woman or man to go into the other gender’s bathroom where they can potentially be assaulted? He doesn’t seem THAT concerned about the wellbeing of his customers now, does he?

Also can someone please break the news to him…if someone wants to peep on people in the restroom they’re probably already doing it. Some freaky guy down the street can dress up as a woman and creep into the ladies’ room with or without transgender people being allowed in it. So Warner, you ain’t helping…SO STOP.

I don’t know about you guys but I have no problem using the bathroom with someone who is transgender. I’m not worried about being assaulted by a transgender person in the restroom either. Transgender people want to do their business and get the hell out just like you and I; because let’s face it those public restrooms are NAAAASSSSTTTYYYYY.

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This is about much more than the bathroom, it’s about safety, dignity, respect and equality. How can you expect someone to go to your business when you can’t even let them do theirs without threatening them? You can’t preach to be helping the common good and then blatantly discriminate.

Until next time friends…and remember do your business and stay out of other people’s. 😉

 

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Stand Up to Assault

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Assault is an everyday fear for those who identify as trans and in order to help them, we need to look deeper into the issue. Sexual assault happens because the perpetrator wants to have power over the victim and trans people are disproportionality the victims.

Sexual assault is something that that has been talked about for generations, but for some reason, transgender people have been left out of the discussion. Even though a harrowing 50% of people who died in hate crimes were transgender women. Sexual assault was also a common occurrence in those crimes, according to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs.

By ignoring the importance of this exclusion, we are ignoring the importance of trans lives. This kind of ignorance is leading to more and more people denying the struggles of the transgender community’s goal of acceptance.

I remember learning about sexual assault at a very
young age, but not learning about trans people until about high school. Times have changed since then though, more activists (like Laverne Cox) have come into the IMG_0203spotlight and more trans people are being represented in media. Being trans is not as taboo as it once was. Though, this is a positive direction, there are still many who deny the importance transgender people. Those who come out, do so because they want to be themselves, but the dangers present in society are probably part of what’s stopping them.

The violence against transgender people needs to stop and we need to make strides in creating safe spaces for them. I know that sounds cliché at this point in time, but it’s important to have them when most of the world is a possible threat. If you see a trans person being harassed, do something. You could be what stands in the way of an assault.

We need to stand up for our trans brothers and sisters, especially now (considering who our president is), to ensure their safety and to encourage more people to come out and be who they are meant to be.