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So…. the semester is coming to a close and unfortunately this is going to be our last post. We’ve had a good few weeks running this blog and think that there’s a lot of good content here that supports trans people. Our goal was to promote trans acceptance and highlight the social atrocities  they face in the media and everyday life.

We know that there are some great people out there that just want to be accepted and the more we do to help them feel comfortable enough to come out, the better we’ll be. Now stay with me I know this sounds mushy and corny, but love makes the world go ’round and acceptance is the first step.

We love our trans brothers and sisters and know that the fight is still going, but it’s gaining more and more support every day. We like to think that means more activists will come out and more people will become accepting of differences in others.

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We’ve written on a lot of topics the past 4 weeks on topics like the ‘bathroom bill’ and violence against trans people. All of which you can see in our archives.

This blog will stand as a testament to the value of trans lives. If you’re trans and reading this we want you to know that we accept you and we hope you feel that this blog has helped in recognizing your struggle and given you comfort in the fact that we care.

This has been fun guys.. see you next time.

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“So like are you really trans?”

This here is a PSA to inform all that asking transgender people inappropriate questions and claiming it’s to educate themselves is NOT cute. Who do you think you are, non-transgender person!? Why do some people think it’s okay ask people about their parts below the belt? Or pry into someone else’s sex life because they feel entitled to know how transgender people “work”? Please have a seat, Sir/Madam/Non-gender conforming individual. No, actually have several seats.

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Stuff like that really pisses me off. If someone walked up to a cisgendered person and asked them some of the insane questions transgender people get asked…Lord knows it wouldn’t be pretty. That person would be called a creep, pervert, pig, insensitive (and the list goes on). Not to mention if said person asked is a minor, the asker would most likely be called a pedo. Yes… transgender people who are minors get asked questions like these too *heavy sigh*.

I actually read about blogger, Noah Wolter, who wrote about their unwanted transgender Q&A.  Some of the questions they get asked include variations of: “Did you get THE surgery yet?”, “What’s your REAL name?”, “How do you have sex?” and the infamous, “What bathroom do you use?”.

RUDE. RUDE. RUDE. RUDE.

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In what world is asking questions like that, especially to complete strangers, acceptable? I know some may honestly be curious but there are a million other questions you can ask someone who is transgender that don’t involve a NSFW warning.

And what kind of question is, “What’s you REAL name?” anyway? What’s YOUR real name Bob? Hmmm hmmmm? Sure thing, Sam…if that’s your REAL name! Just call people what they tell you to call them. Making things complicated for no reason!

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Wolter also made a very valid point, suggesting or assuming that a trans person has had surgery is problematic. A transgender person does not need to have surgery in order to validate their gender change. Having surgery does not make one any more man or woman than they were before the surgical sex change. It can be a slap in the face for those who don’t desire a surgery to “finalize” their transition. Are they not good enough for cisgenders? Give them a break! It’s bad enough they are ridiculed for even being brave enough to come out as trans, now people are making them feel like they have to go under the knife in order to fit societal beauty standards?!

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Some might not have ill intentions when they ask these questions. People are people. And some people are nosy as hell and don’t think before they start running their mouths. Use your noggins, folks.

Jeez, for a group of people that get offended when you ask them a question about income and salary…folks sure know how to ask a lot of personal questions. Transgender people are PEOPLE with emotions and freakin’ personal lives. They aren’t immune to embarrassment or anger when you bombard them with questions or staring (like people who stare are so rude OMG). They deserve respect. If you respect them, you need to respect their privacy. With that being said, if you think your question sounds distasteful or offensive, it probably is. Hey, when in doubt, shut your mouth…just might keep ya outta trouble!

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Watch and Learn

Thought I’d share with you some of the YouTubers I watch who also happen to be transgender and active members in the LGBT community. I’ve also linked their channels if ya wanna watch ’em slayyyyyyy! 🙂

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Nikita Dragun

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(Even though Nikita has been linked to problematic Jeffree Star I still included her)

*New Movie Alert*

 

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The film 3 Generations stars Elle Fanning as a female to male transgender teen named Ray. Apparently the film premiered two years ago and pissed people off because Fanning isn’t transgender. I understand why the LGBT community and upset, why not cast a trans kid for a movie about trans people DUH. The film’s director, Gaby Dellal, explains she would definitely cast a trans kid “But finding a kid that hadn’t medically transitioned or hormonally transitioned yet and was in exactly the same time frame as the character of Ray is incredibly hard to find” (VanityFair.com). I understand casting a transgender person for a film like this is much easier said than done. I respect Dellal for not only making this film but for showing compassion and understanding for the LGBT community. The movie is being released in theaters on May 5th!!!! Yay!

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She is Jazz!

16-year old Jazz Jennings is the star of the reality series, “I am Jazz”. Jazz knew she was a girl when she was a toddler and began to dress as such and transition shortly after. Jazz is an activist in the LGBT community, a YouTuber, model, author of two books and is having a doll modeled after her (!!!!The first trans doll!!!) Jazz is also a Human Rights Campaign Youth Ambassador. Talk about a résumé! 

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And look out for her doll this summer!

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Mind your own ____.

Okay so I was going to post discussing a different topic at first but when I saw this article I couldn’t pass it up. Have you ever seen something so ridiculous you’re at a loss for words? Well brace yourself, folks. A restaurant in Oklahoma City, which is said to be quite popular (not sure how when it makes customers feel this unwelcomed) has issued a warning to it’s transgender customers. Unlike the Steak and Catfish Barn in Oklahoma City, I’m genuinely warning you: Watch your back when dining at this restaurant. The restaurant owner, Bob Warner allowed a sign to be displayed in his business’ window which threatened transgender customers (see below):

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Hmm..even though Warner claims he’s just looking out for his business and the well being of others, it sounds a bit like… a threat. (Hey, I just call ‘em as I see ‘em.) Warner said according to The Blaze, “We have a lot of redneck guys that come in here…If their wife or their little girl walked in that bathroom and a man followed them in there, I wouldn’t have a restaurant.” Wow… let’s give it up for this guy! What a hero! So selfless!

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Is this guy serious? That’s his best excuse? Hey buddy, if you’re so concerned why not make a gender neutral bathroom?! Or as some may like to call it a FAMILY BATHROOM. *oohhs and aahhs erupt from the crowd*

Warner argues that we should keep children and women safe by not allowing transgender customers to use the bathroom of the gender they IDENTIFY with. He adds that they can use the bathroom if they “dress appropriately”. And no he doesn’t elaborate. Umm excuse me…what does that even mean?! Are sweatpants allowed or is that too casual?

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It’s people like Warner who claim to not be transphobic or homophobic that are stopping us from progressing. They’re stereotypical and prejudice and pretend they’re doing it all for the common good. He’s essentially making an accusation that transgender individuals are predators. There have been studies that show transgender individuals are more likely to encounter problems when using a public restroom. A report at UCLA said close to 70% of transgender people experienced verbal harassment and near 10% experienced physical assault when using public restroom (Time.com). When was the last time you were attacked in a bathroom, Warner? Why force someone who identifies as a woman or man to go into the other gender’s bathroom where they can potentially be assaulted? He doesn’t seem THAT concerned about the wellbeing of his customers now, does he?

Also can someone please break the news to him…if someone wants to peep on people in the restroom they’re probably already doing it. Some freaky guy down the street can dress up as a woman and creep into the ladies’ room with or without transgender people being allowed in it. So Warner, you ain’t helping…SO STOP.

I don’t know about you guys but I have no problem using the bathroom with someone who is transgender. I’m not worried about being assaulted by a transgender person in the restroom either. Transgender people want to do their business and get the hell out just like you and I; because let’s face it those public restrooms are NAAAASSSSTTTYYYYY.

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This is about much more than the bathroom, it’s about safety, dignity, respect and equality. How can you expect someone to go to your business when you can’t even let them do theirs without threatening them? You can’t preach to be helping the common good and then blatantly discriminate.

Until next time friends…and remember do your business and stay out of other people’s. 😉

 

Stand Up to Assault

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Assault is an everyday fear for those who identify as trans and in order to help them, we need to look deeper into the issue. Sexual assault happens because the perpetrator wants to have power over the victim and trans people are disproportionality the victims.

Sexual assault is something that that has been talked about for generations, but for some reason, transgender people have been left out of the discussion. Even though a harrowing 50% of people who died in hate crimes were transgender women. Sexual assault was also a common occurrence in those crimes, according to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs.

By ignoring the importance of this exclusion, we are ignoring the importance of trans lives. This kind of ignorance is leading to more and more people denying the struggles of the transgender community’s goal of acceptance.

I remember learning about sexual assault at a very
young age, but not learning about trans people until about high school. Times have changed since then though, more activists (like Laverne Cox) have come into the IMG_0203spotlight and more trans people are being represented in media. Being trans is not as taboo as it once was. Though, this is a positive direction, there are still many who deny the importance transgender people. Those who come out, do so because they want to be themselves, but the dangers present in society are probably part of what’s stopping them.

The violence against transgender people needs to stop and we need to make strides in creating safe spaces for them. I know that sounds cliché at this point in time, but it’s important to have them when most of the world is a possible threat. If you see a trans person being harassed, do something. You could be what stands in the way of an assault.

We need to stand up for our trans brothers and sisters, especially now (considering who our president is), to ensure their safety and to encourage more people to come out and be who they are meant to be.