This here is a PSA to inform all that asking transgender people inappropriate questions and claiming it’s to educate themselves is NOT cute. Who do you think you are, non-transgender person!? Why do some people think it’s okay ask people about their parts below the belt? Or pry into someone else’s sex life because they feel entitled to know how transgender people “work”? Please have a seat, Sir/Madam/Non-gender conforming individual. No, actually have several seats.
Stuff like that really pisses me off. If someone walked up to a cisgendered person and asked them some of the insane questions transgender people get asked…Lord knows it wouldn’t be pretty. That person would be called a creep, pervert, pig, insensitive (and the list goes on). Not to mention if said person asked is a minor, the asker would most likely be called a pedo. Yes… transgender people who are minors get asked questions like these too *heavy sigh*.
I actually read about blogger, Noah Wolter, who wrote about their unwanted transgender Q&A. Some of the questions they get asked include variations of: “Did you get THE surgery yet?”, “What’s your REAL name?”, “How do you have sex?” and the infamous, “What bathroom do you use?”.
RUDE. RUDE. RUDE. RUDE.
In what world is asking questions like that, especially to complete strangers, acceptable? I know some may honestly be curious but there are a million other questions you can ask someone who is transgender that don’t involve a NSFW warning.
And what kind of question is, “What’s you REAL name?” anyway? What’s YOUR real name Bob? Hmmm hmmmm? Sure thing, Sam…if that’s your REAL name! Just call people what they tell you to call them. Making things complicated for no reason!
Wolter also made a very valid point, suggesting or assuming that a trans person has had surgery is problematic. A transgender person does not need to have surgery in order to validate their gender change. Having surgery does not make one any more man or woman than they were before the surgical sex change. It can be a slap in the face for those who don’t desire a surgery to “finalize” their transition. Are they not good enough for cisgenders? Give them a break! It’s bad enough they are ridiculed for even being brave enough to come out as trans, now people are making them feel like they have to go under the knife in order to fit societal beauty standards?!
Some might not have ill intentions when they ask these questions. People are people. And some people are nosy as hell and don’t think before they start running their mouths. Use your noggins, folks.
Jeez, for a group of people that get offended when you ask them a question about income and salary…folks sure know how to ask a lot of personal questions. Transgender people are PEOPLE with emotions and freakin’ personal lives. They aren’t immune to embarrassment or anger when you bombard them with questions or staring (like people who stare are so rude OMG). They deserve respect. If you respect them, you need to respect their privacy. With that being said, if you think your question sounds distasteful or offensive, it probably is. Hey, when in doubt, shut your mouth…just might keep ya outta trouble!